9 Signs You're Dealing With An Emotional Manipulator4:47 AM
Manipulation is a phenomenon that, in one way or another, has touched us all very carefully. And emotional manipulators are incredibly tale...
Manipulation is a phenomenon that, in one way or another, has touched us all very carefully. And emotional manipulators are incredibly talented liars. It is fair to recognize that perhaps at some point we have assumed the role of manipulators, even without being fully aware of it. Although there are also times when we have been manipulated.
Do not let anyone else determine your feelings.
You may also be manipulatedMaybe you already had something to do with him, or maybe he is even one of your best friends: an emotional manipulator. People who consciously play with the feelings of their fellow human beings and manipulate them as they please.
We all let ourselves be influenced by the feelings of our fellow human beings. If your partner had a bad day, for example, you probably have a much worse mood or vice versa, you can save him with your good mood. Even the feelings of your friends, colleagues or your boss can have a significant influence on you.
Unfortunately, many people use this power to manipulate you. They change your perception, and in the worst case, they will doubt your mind.
Often, however, we do not realize that we are dealing with such manipulators and simply let our feelings steer from them. There are simple signs where you can recognize them. Travis Bradberry, writer and expert on emotional intelligence, she showed in a guest contributor for "Entrepreneur."
You can recognize an emotional manipulation on these nine signs:
They are good liarsThey tell you about things that have never actually happened or deny things that have happened. They do so believably that you often doubt yourselves and only buy the lies from them. In this way, for example, they want to awaken your compassion, make themselves stand in a good light and change your perception.
If you feel that you are being lied, you should try to expose the liar. Ask him, look for inconsistencies or ask others if they can confirm a story. Of course, anyone can be wrong or have something else in mind when it actually happened, so you should not be too hasty with some accusations.
They are too openAlthough you do not know each other so well, they tell you about very personal things or even trust your secrets. You should be careful because maybe you want to create a confidence base as quickly as possible so that you can tell them all your personal stories and secrets. They will then use them against you.
So you should not trust anyone prematurely, but first create a foundation, so that you know that you can trust a person also really.
You know your weaknesses - and use them against youThey know where to push them, so you're really hurt. If you are uncertain about your appearance, comment on the choice of your clothes or what you order at the restaurant.
Instead of helping you feel better, try to make your life harder and strengthen your uncertainties.
What they say and what they do are two entirely different thingsThey tell you exactly what you want to hear, but ultimately just do what suits them. Instead of being honest and telling you from the start that they do not share your opinion, they just show you their support - although you will not get it.
If something happens to you for the first time, you may not be able to see it and do not mind. But once again you should not fall for it with the same person, but ask her from the beginning.
You play with your conscienceNo matter what you do, an emotional manipulator will make you feel bad. If you argue it is your fault and even if you only tell of a problem, you are to blame for it.
That you feel sorry, then use them to their advantage, to get exactly what they want. Your feelings are basically irrelevant to them.
Your feelings become your feelingsIf it's not good for you, it's not good for you, and when you're angry, you're furious too - you have complete control over your emotions.
Thus they awaken your sympathy and ensure that their problems of them want to solve, even though they have nothing to do with you.
They're talking your problems smallWhen you speak about your problems, they make you feel bad. Because after all, they are much worse and they always have exactly the same problem as you - only that, of course, is much worse than yours. They always pull you into a comparison and give you the feeling of being ungrateful, a nag, or a lament.
They play the victim rollThe whole world has conspired against them, and they are never guilty of anything. Basically, they simply do not take responsibility for their mistakes. They always blame the blame on others and most preferably on you.
They are helpful - but they are notIf you ask them for help, they will be there quickly, but if it really is that they have to help you, they will act as if it were an enormous additional burden that they have to bear on your account.
Although they have assured you of their help without problems, they moan and moan about how much work they have for you. To save you this time, you should not ask her the next time.
You can do thatDo these signs apply to one or more people you know? Then you should try to establish an emotional distance to them. Do not try to catch a profound friendship with them, but remain with them on a true, neutral level.
Learn to perceive your feelings in a differentiated way and try to make you always clear where the emotions come from - or from your own influence?
Detects the behavior patterns of a manipulator and learns to deal with them. Set limits and make sure he can not cross them.