Why Do Men Cheat? 10 Reasons Men Cheat on Relationships9:25 PM
Honesty and relationship transparency is the only meaningful path to genuine intimacy, not to ment...
Honesty and relationship
transparency is the only meaningful path to genuine intimacy, not to
mention personal integrity and self-esteem. Intimacy, control,
just being a horn-dog? Sex and relationship experts spill on the top
reasons why men cheat. (Besides, you know, being total a-holes.)
They're Avoiding Intimacy
"Some men cheat to avoid any real intimacy. Intimacy scares them, so they distance themselves from their wife or girlfriend by cheating on her" says psychiatrist Gail Saltz, MD. This way they never have to fully rely on someone else, so they can't get hurt. Yeah, it makes sense in their minds…
He Has Fallen In Love With Someone Else
For his partner, the saddest reason a man might cheat is that he has fallen in love with someone else. She might be unavailable for a relationship, or perhaps just hasn't got around to breaking up with you yet. Sometimes issues of the heart take us all by surprise.
In this situation, it's not you ... it's just life.
He’s a liar.He never intended to be monogamous, despite his commitment. He doesn’t understand that his vow of fidelity is a sacrifice made to and for his relationship and the person he professes to love. This man views monogamy as something to be worked around rather than embraced.
He is confused about love. He mistakes limerence—the “rush” of early romance—with love. He does not understand that in truly loving relationships, the early, visceral attraction is gradually replaced by sweeter feelings of longer-term attachment, honesty, commitment, and emotional intimacy.
They Crave Intimacy
On the flip side, some men are searching for intimacy outside of their relationship. According sex expert Emily Morse, some couples drift apart over time and don't communicate about their lack of intimacy. When that happens, some men think it's easier to just cheat instead of talking about it.
MisunderstandingAffairs usually start when a man feels misunderstood, like the areas of his life that are important to him are being criticized or deemed not important. Then he finds a woman appreciates him, who gives him something he isn’t getting from his primary relationship…and he strays. It’s not that he doesn’t love his partner, she just can no longer connect to him in the way he wants most and when that sort of pure appreciation comes from another source he can’t help but be drawn to it.
Their Libido Needs a Boost
You know how it goes—you can't get enough of each other at the beginning. But after a while, things feel more comfortable…which isn't a bad thing. Some men crave that newness again and go elsewhere to find it.
He Wants To End a Relationship
Some men fear leaving a relationship before establishing a new one. It is surprising how many men met or knew their current partner while still in a relationship with a previous partner.
Meeting or knowing a women of course does not mean that he is cheating. However, sometimes rather than leave his partner and "risk it all", a man will fully establish his relationship with a new woman before leaving his current one. This is when cheating occurs.
They Want Variety
Get this: Some men will cheat even though they love the woman they're with. "Men admit to cheating because they crave variety, and new experiences" says Morse, "but have done so while still being very happy in their current relationship." Yeah…that's ridiculously lame.
He Is Getting Revenge
Have you cheated on him? As an act of revenge, he might actively seek to cheat on you also. Even if you are innocent, maybe you have been paying too much attention to someone else (inadvertently or deliberately). If he is jealous, he might try to pay you back by cheating on you.
This is a relationship in trouble. Acts of revenge can spiral out of control and cause everyone involved a lot of pain.
They Lack Willpower
Morse says that some men are just plain weak. They give into a sexual affair, "simply because the opportunity presented itself and they weren't strong enough to say no." Sounds like a cop-out to us.
The problem is, too many women think that if they are overly appreciative to their husbands, they’ll reduce their husband’s desire to please her. It’s quite the opposite. actually. Men are energized when they feel their wives are appreciating them.