Falling In Love With Your Spouse All Over Again

I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person. But I do know that if you trea...

I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person. But I do know that if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after all. It is far more important to be the right kind of person than it is to marry the right person.

Falling In Love With Your Spouse All Over Again
Here is an inspiring story to fall in love once again with your spouse or lover. 
One day there was a wife who was wickedly angry at her husband. She was hurting bitterly from years of unmet needs, and disappointment in her husband’s behavior. She dreamed of ways to get back at him, to make him hurt in return.
Somebody told her about a very old wise man, who sat atop the nearby mountain. Surely he would have a clever and sinister idea for her.
At the suggestion, the woman climbed the mountain and found the wise man.
“Sir,” she told him. “All I want to do is to cause heartache for my husband. I don’t think he even has feelings, but if he does, I want to hurt them!”
Aaaaah, of course,” he responded with great empathy. “I will tell you what to do. For the next 2 months, I want you to just pretend that you actually love him. This is just for a short time, and there is no emotion necessary. Just ask yourself often, ‘what *actions* would I take if I loved him?’ and then do those things. Then, come back and see me, and I’ll tell you what to do to hurt him fiercely.”
“Okay,” said the bitter wife. “I guess since it is just for a short time, and no emotion is necessary, I can act like I would if I loved him. Oh, boy!”
In the following weeks, she enacted the plan wholeheartedly. She faithfully acted like she was in love with her husband, and then she returned to the sage on the mount, for the rest of the plan.
“So you followed my advice? Good!” said the wise old man. Ready? Here is what you do next. You climb back down that mountain and you just LEAVE your husband. That’s it. He will be so shocked after your kind actions, that you will break his heart!”
“Leave!” gasped the woman. “I can’t leave now!”
“But why not?” he asked.
“Because…” she began, stunned at her own discovery. “…because now, I love him!
“Aaaaah, yes.” smiled the sage. “I suppose you do!” . . . ………………………….
 I found this very wise story on another website: www.ginaparris.com

So what do you think about falling in love again? Here is another wise speech on the topic: 
Love is not a feeling; real love is an action, an activity. 
“When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion–through the fact that for someone we take an extra step or walk an extra mile.  Love is as love does, not as love says.  

“Moreover, real love is a choice.  We don’t have to love, we choose to love.  If we are not loving, it is not because we are not feeling loving; it is because we have made the choice not to love.  Real love does not have its roots in a feeling of love.  To the contrary, real love often occurs in a context in which the feeling of love is lacking, when we act loving despite the fact we don’t feel loving.  

“The tendency to confuse love with the feeling of love allows people all manner of self-deception.  Many, many people possessing a feeling of love and even acting in response to that feeling act in all manner of unloving and destructive ways.  On the other hand, a genuinely loving individual will often take loving and constructive action toward a person he or she consciously dislikes, actually feeling no love toward the person at the time and perhaps even finding the person repugnant in some way.  

“True love is not a feeling by which we are overwhelmed.  When love exists it does so with or without a loving feeling.  Genuine love, therefore, is volitional rather than emotional.  The person who truly loves does so because of a decision to love, to be a loving person.  This person has made a commitment to be loving whether or not the loving feeling is present.  If it is, so much the better; but if it isn’t, the commitment to love, the will to love, still stands and is still exercised.”

– M Scott Peck, abridged from “The Road Less Traveled

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